2 Valuable lessons that I've learned during my 2nd divorce.
I never want anyone else to feel like I did - ashamed, embarrassed, self-conscious because of the bruises...What someone feels is ok to do to you - harm you physically - is not okay and not your fault. I wish I could have absorbed this earlier than when I finally did. A man that physically attacks a women is not a man - not a normal human being - it's not ok and they are showing how weak THEY are NOT how weak you are. I've decided to take a second shot at exposing my most raw emotions about something that I would never want another woman to ever go through.
And that's when I realized just who he really is. I will never get an apology for the hurt and harm he caused. If I expect this then I will be forever angry because it's something that he can't mentally do.
Be with someone for all of it...be with them for who they are today...and nothing more. The person that is standing in front of you is who they will be for the rest of their lives. And you can't expect them to be any different - that's not fair to anyone.
Divorce can bring people back into your life that you forgot were in the wings.